How not speaking becomes a blessing!!

Many of us have been taught in our daily lives to speak our hearts out and tell the world how we feel as speaking your heart out can relieve anxiety, stress, and frustrations. I disagree as to when you speak anything out make sure first that you are in the right company

The company to which we speak matters the most as most of the time you might be speaking to an individual who is actually judging you and thinks that the way you might be venting out frustrations can be used against you if you may have a common friend. It is not necessary that we have to get along with all the individuals we meet by default. Some have different mindsets and some think they are actually smarter than you and they do not have time for your silly gerund.

I suggest assessing the person before speaking anything about your personal or private life as I reiterate that not everyone you meet may have a similar mindset as you do. It's better to get along with that person first and let them speak and you assess them if it safe to disclose anything you want to disclose to them in near future, in short, are your secrets safe with them?

Many times you might just meet a spouse of your spouse’s friend and you might be forced to get along with them just cause your spouse and her spouse are good friends but after venting out a lot as you have not spoken to anyone for ages you realize you are poles apart. I would just let the other person talk and assess her first then talking my life and let my secrets be disclosed as sometimes you realize the community you may meet might be a closed circle.

It may be frustrating when you relocate to a new place and you are eager to make good friends and speak but then the new place and new people are not literally your friends. If you feel like you have lost your voice it's always better to write your diary and then keep it safe where no one can reach. Not all are blessed with spouses who are good listeners although they pretend they hear you. They might not necessarily understand your thoughts as they are again a different person although you must have got along well and decided to be married and a man does not think like a woman. It is better to write your heart out than go and keep telling your problems or stories to people as someone rightly said than 90% don’t care about your problems and the rest are actually you have one. There is no point in telling your problems, feelings. I would just pray to God to solve them, or write them down as a blog and keep it secret or publish it as I have observed many strangers are most empathetic towards you as a person than the people you know in person unless you match their thinking and really got along well.