How do friends use us?
Many must have been familiar with this phrase where most of our friends or some friends must have used it at some point in life just to grow and then you realise that they just needed something from you maybe advise or monetary benefits. How would you deal with such parasites in disguise of friends and how to throw them out of your life?
A friend in need is a friend Indeed
This proverb is true when both the friends believe in it and not just one friend. When a friend just calls you when in trouble and you help them they will again remember you when in trouble again. you may just help them thinking they are your friends but would they reciprocate the same when you are in need? In order to spot that you should never feel bad to ask for help even if you are in need. what is the point in wasting time with such a friend who is never there when you want them?
Change in Behaviour
When you have spotted such friends make sure that you unfriend them or slowly walk away. It may seem bit awkward in the beginning as you may have got used to their presence in your life but trust me that would be the best thing you will ever do if you slowly chuck them out of your life when you have spotted that it's only you, who have been putting the efforts in this friendship and not otherwise. Life is short to live with parasites and let them suck your blood. They ain’t going to help you and every time you confront them they will have an excuse which may make your problem smaller than usual but you will have to take a call if you would even want to be with such friends at all.
Calling them a friend
Friendship is two-sided just like marriage is. If you give, give and give you will have nothing left but regrets.In order to give you should be even filled. If that filling is not there then you will only feel empty as no one has filled that box to give again. SO make sure you get rid of such friends once you have spotted the toxicity. It is better to be alone, strong and explore yourself than being with a friend who is never there when you want them or just pretend they are there but in reality, they are not. Life is very short of excuses. It is ok to be alone, or have very few friends than to have pretentious or fake friends.
Exploring yourself
When you get rid of such friends you may feel you are feeling emptiness or loneliness but its actually that you are exploring yourself and if you can give the same time to your so-called not so deserving friend give time to refresh and rejuvenate yourself and befriend only such person who is genuinely interested in keeping friendships and understands the concept of giving and take. You don't need liability in your life and nor do you have to give a price to have someone’s company it is as good as paying for escort services. Just be yourself. Enjoy your company. Befriend books and enjoy your own company.
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