Being in an Abusive Relationship or Marriage
When the respect and love are not served it is always good to leave and set up your own shelter than stay in a marriage or a relationship which takes a toll on the mental health. It is always good to have someone in your life who can do things for you, love and share the workload but what about respect?
Usually, we think many spouses or partners get adjusted with time but most of the time it is not the case. The relationship or marriage starts getting old as you know a lot about each other. It depends on how people are if one is emotional and the other is not and just being practical all the time. It's good to think practically and logically at times but most marriages and relationships are built over kindness and respect.
Love fades over time but respect stays. If someone has something valuable and they don't treat it with respect it is better to leave the place where no longer the respect is served but it is most often easier said than done staying under one roof and having an abusive partner mentally or physically takes a toll most of the time in Asian communities unless the abuse is physical it is not recognised. There is mental harassment which many often Asian communities overlook. There were times when being divorced or separated was considered taboo. Times have not changed much either although we are educated a single person is still treated like they have done something wrong and most often perceived that the person is unable to adjust. Love, relationship, kinship and friendships are always both sides but whenever you are feeling only you are putting more effort and another side is not putting any effort it is better to leave the place. but, since many women are dependent on their spouses it's not always that easy, especially even when children are involved. You can only give a person a chance to a level but when that level is crossed and respect is no longer served and efforts are no longer made we should leave the place. It's better to stay alone and in peace when there is no compatibility. Life is long and you need someone is a myth when we enjoy our own company.
We come alone, We go alone from this world. In between, we only meet some people who are called friends, partners, siblings and parents. we are nothing but travellers in this world and this journey is not the end. We have another world waiting for us a more permanent one when everything we went through in the world. All the heartbreaks, pain, companionship will make sense.
